My Husband
I remember the first time I met Adam. He was playing baseball for the same baseball organization as my younger brother, and the organization had traveled to Kansas City for a baseball tournament. Per usual, I was brought along on the road trip to watch my brother pitch. As we walked into the lobby of the hotel room, my mom noticed a man that she recognized. That man was Adam’s dad. Our parents introduced us to one another and I just remember him staring at his cleats putting off a vibe that said he definitely wanted this to end as soon as possible so he could run off to be with his team. As soon as his father released him from our conversation, he took off.
Later we attended the same middle school and same religious school, so our paths were destined to cross again. Well they did, again and again. Over time we developed this strong friendship that I really cannot explain. We would always hang out and talk, but it was as nothing more than just friends.
My friends nicknamed it “magnetism.” It was this idea that no matter where life took Adam and I, there was always this pull that led us back to one another and kept us in each other’s lives. Then one time that pull was finally strong enough that it led to something more.
Adam was working as a news broadcaster in a small town in Nebraska and had tickets to the Nebraska basketball game. Knowing I was in my first year of law school and could probably use a night off, he invited me to attend the game with him when he came to Lincoln. I was excited to see my friend after not having seen him for a while, but then he showed up with a buddy. Suddenly I felt like a third wheel and sad that it wouldn’t be just us. It was a strange feeling.
His friend suddenly felt really sick during the game and they had to leave, but I didn’t want him to leave yet. Why didn’t I want him to leave? Oh no, what was happening to me? Well the friend was sicker than he thought and had to seek emergency, so while he was being treated Adam and I walked around the arena and caught up. Then I blurted out, I think it is time for me to finally schedule a time to visit you in Hastings. So I did and the rest is history.
I won’t bore you with the details, but we have been together ever since I scheduled that visit Hastings. I love and care for him so much that sometimes it scares me because I am pretty independent. It scares me even more is to think that we could create something that is half him and half me, and even more terrifying is that we may never be able to.
Although I have to say, if anything good has come from our second life, it is that I have no doubt about Adam and I. He has been my rock throughout all of this and has balanced me perfectly. When you experience something like this, it gets really awkward and personal. However, we have somehow been able to take it all stride while finding ways to laugh and still be us. We maintain hope for the best, but at the end of the day, if it is just the two of us then I couldn’t be more grateful that I get to share this life with him.